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    What are your Forbidden Questions?

    Whether it’s to avoid conflict, preserve cultural bulwarks, protect power relations, or prevent disappointment, organizations often end up with a set of forbidden questions.

    Some generic examples include: Why are things done this way? Who really makes these decisions? How much is enough? Who gets rewarded for what? How is status conferred? Who controls what information?

    Responses to forbidden questions vary. The most important one is no response at all, either because they aren’t asked or because the organization simply lacks the procedures and venues for responding. Colleagues might respond with disapproval based upon the notion that the question reveals inappropriate assumptions that might be held by the questioner. The form that disapproval might take varies from organization to organization.

    I would love to compile a list of real-life forbidden questions. Tell me: What are the forbidden questions in your organization?

    Comments

    Comment from Beverly Trayner
    Time: November 21, 2006, 3:03 am

    Thanks! I enjoyed thinking about it…
    http://phronesis.typepad.com/weblog/2006/11/forbidden_quest.html

    Comment from Paul Dupree
    Time: November 22, 2006, 2:08 pm

    “Elephants in the middle of the table”
    What is preventing me from speaking truth to power?
    Why do we bother working together?
    In what ways am I doing to others the very things I claim they should not do?

    Comment from JEN
    Time: December 4, 2006, 7:24 am

    I am so glad someone else has these difficulties. Today our forbidden question is; Are you covering your butt, or does it just seem like you are? or how about; What newspaper can I find my job posted in tomorrow?
    Thanks for the clarity!

    Comment from Lou Ann
    Time: December 11, 2006, 4:10 pm

    Consistently one of the big ones is “how much money do you make”.

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